This is a mature and generous account of your own self-awareness in relationship to aging parents Dana. It's a vulnerable tutorial on how to navigate parental relationships with dignity and intelligence. I especially loved this, "My wise, compassionate, caring, generous, deeply emotional, godly father is actually human and realising that is painful and liberating. I feel the pain of losing my hero, the one who knew it all and who could solve all the world’s problems. I also feel the spark of liberation which will allow me to truly get to know the man whom I have loved all my life."
You will never change his mind on religion or politics. But that’s why we respect and love our dad so much! He’s strong and no one is going to “move him” to move off his “foundation”. We can like it or dislike it and he will remain the same strong man. He is full of wisdom that he loves to share with everyone!! His intent is to always make us better ❤️ we all have so much to learn from him before he is not with us on this earthly place anymore. Let’s focus on the things where we can absorb his knowledge, whether we agree or agree to disagree 🙌🏼❤️ I love you and this is such a good perspective on our father!!!
HI Dana, This is a powerful piece. I feel for you!!! And I love how what your daughter said opened your eyes -- even though you are RIGHT! This is a delightful three-generation story. And Letting go of your image of him as your hero -- intense -- good -- hard -- so much richness in this story.
This is a mature and generous account of your own self-awareness in relationship to aging parents Dana. It's a vulnerable tutorial on how to navigate parental relationships with dignity and intelligence. I especially loved this, "My wise, compassionate, caring, generous, deeply emotional, godly father is actually human and realising that is painful and liberating. I feel the pain of losing my hero, the one who knew it all and who could solve all the world’s problems. I also feel the spark of liberation which will allow me to truly get to know the man whom I have loved all my life."
Rick thank you so very much x
You will never change his mind on religion or politics. But that’s why we respect and love our dad so much! He’s strong and no one is going to “move him” to move off his “foundation”. We can like it or dislike it and he will remain the same strong man. He is full of wisdom that he loves to share with everyone!! His intent is to always make us better ❤️ we all have so much to learn from him before he is not with us on this earthly place anymore. Let’s focus on the things where we can absorb his knowledge, whether we agree or agree to disagree 🙌🏼❤️ I love you and this is such a good perspective on our father!!!
Amen, sister. Totally agree 👍
Thank you Genie! Letting go is so hard to do!
HI Dana, This is a powerful piece. I feel for you!!! And I love how what your daughter said opened your eyes -- even though you are RIGHT! This is a delightful three-generation story. And Letting go of your image of him as your hero -- intense -- good -- hard -- so much richness in this story.
Wonderful story, Dana.
Your sister’s comments speak volumes also. Sounds like he was always a rock for your family. Lovely.